It seems life is passing us by more quickly than it used to. Is this because of advancing age or because we cram more into each day, week, month and year?
Whatever the reason, as we trundle along on our own personal treadmills of life and within our own bubble of perception, perhaps we might also take time out to reflect on the things going on around us and in the lives of our families, friends and colleagues.
How interested are you in other people? I don’t mean the stuff reported in the media or HELLO! magazine, nor prying into the ins and outs of your friends’ personal lives, but genuine concern for the well-being of others.
How often do you ask your family how they really are, or notice if they are not quite themselves, gently voice your concern and/or offer to lend an ear or give them a hug?
I’ve noticed that when you ask someone how they are, they usually say “fine, thanks” even though they’re not. I agree that this is a typical British response based in stoicism, but I imagine it is probably one that is also common across the globe. I often follow up with, “yes, but how are you really?” This can afford an opportunity for someone to open up and tell you their concerns, although many people will still prefer to tell you about the issues their parents, spouses, children or friends are having rather than admit they don’t feel up to much!
For all of us it’s good to know that in a time of crisis or pain, there is someone we can call upon who will listen to us without judgment and who won’t try to fix us by telling us what we should be doing.
Talking to someone outside your own circle is a good way to get some help. Our consultants are not involved in your personal situation and can lend a non-judgmental ear. Unburdening yourself in this way will help you release any stress that has built up inside you, and the consultation work itself will really help you move forward from whatever is troubling you.