At our last SuperConnect class we talked about the things we tell ourselves we should be doing. The should word brings with it many emotions related to self-punishment, such as stress, shame, guilt and inadequacy.
Although there are things that need our prompt attention, such as collecting the children from school, going to work, attending an appointment at the dentist, etc., not everything in our lives has to be done right now.
As human beings we are given free will or choice. So, if we consciously replace the word should by could, we will experience much better feelings about ourselves. No longer will we beat ourselves up because we should be doing something:
I could be doing the ironing but I choose to sit and enjoy the sunshine for half an hour.
I could be preparing dinner but I choose to watch my favourite programme on TV first.
I could be sorting my paperwork but I choose to do it another time.
Whilst you might argue that you are putting something off, the very act of choosing when you do something is empowering. Ultimately, the ironing has to be done, dinner has to be prepared and the paperwork needs to be attended to, however, the choice of when to do it is yours.
Consciously and purposefully make supportive choices for yourself to free your mind from the constant nagging of your ego and its attempts to put you down.